Sunday, January 14, 2024

Hospitality: What It Is and Is Not

 

Note: Last November, my wife, Mandy, wrote a series of Facebook posts on the subject of hospitality. They were most helpful. I have combined them with her permission into a short, two-part blog series. Here's the first part:

What Hospitality Is

Since we are coming into the holiday and hosting season, I wanted to share some thoughts about hospitality over the next few weeks. Tom and I have always taken hospitality seriously and have sought to encourage others to do the same. I hope some of these thoughts will challenge and encourage you.

Romans 12:13 Distributing to the necessity of the saints; given to hospitality.

Hospitality is more than just entertaining. Hospitality is filling a need. It's setting people at ease. Many years of living in a big city saw us welcoming people who were adjusting to a new home, new job, new culture, new church, and new country into our home! 

We are often called to minister through hospitality to a new believer who has absolutely no clue what living life as a Christian looks like in practical terms. Using hospitality helps to build these people up. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 tells us to comfort each other and edify one another. As you open your home and life to others, this will happen.

Hospitality is a method of encouragement for the discouraged, showing them the heart of Jesus. It puts some skin on Christianity. It shows them the Christian life in action. In 1 Corinthians, Paul said to be followers of me, even as I am of Christ. Opening your home and life to people will give them a glimpse of what following Jesus involves. And that should include love and care. Hospitality is not just inviting people to your home; it is asking them to share your life.

You cannot help bear the burdens of others if you do not know the burdens!

(Galatians 6:2) Learning about people, their experience, and their story will help you understand them and give you patience as you work with them.

Hospitality requires you to get out of your comfort zone! Some people are complicated! They have a difficult past and awkward manner, a significant problem or disability. Practicing hospitality will help those things fade in your eyes as you care for and serve them.

I remember many years ago, a couple began attending our church. They had a complicated story and, quite frankly, got on my nerves. One rainy afternoon, I situated my two oldest at the church with their dad to do school, and I packed my toddler up and met the wife at a coffee shop. I felt like I had been beaten up after sitting there listening to her for two hours. I offered what little counsel and comfort I could. I prayed with her and then drove the few short blocks back home.

The Lord put a thought into my mind as I went back home... if she were your sister, wouldn't you want someone to spend the time to care for her? I answered back with a resounding, “Yes!” I pray often that others will minister to my family in my absence. So then, I need to be willing to minister to others and their families!

As you practice hospitality, ask the Holy Spirit to give you discernment. Ask for help noticing needs. (Romans 8.14) And when you see a need... meet it!

Jesus met needs! It did not try to ignore the needs of the hurting around Him. We need to stop pretending we are the only people in the world that are busy or broke. We must stop ignoring people under the guise of "That's not my job." Authentic Christianity will include hospitality. The more mature you become as a Christian, the more your heart will be moved to meet your needs.

Hospitality is more than having a dinner party. As with many things in the Christian life, it begins in our hearts and works its way outward.

You won't always get it right as you seek to practice hospitality, but if you keep practicing, you will get more accomplished! Let's grow together!

1 Peter 4:9 Use hospitality one to another without grudging.

What Hospitality is Not

1. It's not a contest!

If your hospitality involves, "Look what I can do", it has already become a sounding brass or a tinkling cymbal. 

We were invited to a lovely, authentic Cajun dinner earlier this year. We were served Etouffee, rice, homemade rolls and two flavors of King cake! Everything I put in my mouth was delicious, and I couldn't recreate that meal today if my life depended on it! Yet, not once in my visit to that home did I think, "Oh, man! This hostess can really outdo me... I better take notes so I can make something even fancier when they come over for dinner!"

It's not a contest! Their family was simply seeking to be a blessing and to share a special part of their life with us and so we enjoyed a lovely evening of fellowship. (Acts 2:42 ) If we look at hospitality as a way to outdo someone, we will come out empty every time. Graciously give and receive the ministry of hospitality. (Proverbs 11:16 )

2. It's not an excuse to shortchange your own family.

Hospitality does not involve buying things you don't need, with money you don't have, to impress people you don't like! Hospitality is sharing what God has given you and done for you. Don't hurt your budget by overdoing it for the company. Don't take time away from the responsibilities of your own family to host lavish parties. Don't always give your family your leftover time and effort. We must have balance! (Proverbs 31:27)

3. It is not perfection.

Think of Moses and his conversation with God in the burning bush... What is that in thine hand? ( Exodus 4:2 ) God doesn't expect you to make everything perfect at your dinner party... in fact, we will never encounter perfection until we reach Heaven.

"It doesn't have to be perfect to be beautiful." I read that quote long ago in a decorating book. It's true! God is in the redeeming business... He is also in the multiplying business. Think with me here about the little boy's lunch. (John 6:1-13) God can do the same thing with your hospitality! He can take your little apartment, your pot of soup, your game night, and He can bring baskets of good out of your simple offering, even if it's imperfect.

As in all areas of Christian life, we need to submit, obey, and let God give us an increase. He takes our human limitations and does miraculous things for His glory. Yes, even in hospitality!

Ephesians 8:20, 21 Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, unto Hom be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen.

Saturday, December 30, 2023

My Top Ten Books of 2023

 

We begin the year with what has become a traditional post for me, my top ten books of 2023. Years ago, in an effort to stop buying the same used books repeatedly, I archived all of my books on Goodreads. I still use it frequently to track my books owned/read. I also review each book I read, and participate in their annual reading challenge. For 2023, my year in review shows I read 54 books totaling 21,757 pages. My shortest book completed was 50 pages (Riley Barrett’s Not The Exception.) My longest book completed was 2,368 pages (The Strand Study Bible.) Average book length was 402 pages. My most shelved book, Killers of the Flower Moon, is on 745,000 other shelves. My least shelved book, a biography of William Biederwolf, is only on my shelf. Along with this annual post about my reading, I also maintain a list of books I recommend in general. You can find it here at Brennan’s Book List. It currently contains 423 recommendations spread over 41 different categories.

Without further ado, in no particular order, here are my top ten books for 2023:

 

The Graves Are Walking: The Great Famine and the Saga of the Irish People by John Kelly

As a direct descendant of Irish immigrants who fled Ireland to escape this event, I have a natural interest in it. This is by far the best book I've read on the subject. Kelly does an outstanding job of telling us the story in context rather than just relating dreary statistics. There are statistics, of course, appalling ones, but he frames them well within the overarching story. In the process we learn about the Irish climate, economics, and farming practices. We discover how the peasants and landlords of that time lived and were viewed. We see how philosophy shaped relief, and the uninenteded massive consequences of laws passed attempting to fix things. Perhaps the most compelling part of a compelling book was the discussion of the flight via ships to North America, and how the Irish were received in Canada and the United States.

As the Irish said, "God sent the blight but the British sent the famine." I do not necessarily agree with that, nor does Kelly, but after finishing this book I certainly understand better why the feeling existed. If your heritage is the Irish diaspora in America you owe it to yourself to read it. And you won't be sorry. 

 

Ravensbruck: Life and Death in Hitler’s Concentration Camp for Women by Sarah Helm

 This has to be one of the most difficult if not the most difficult books I have ever read. This is not because of the writing. I have no complaint there. It was well written. But the content - which was painstakingly reconstructed and is pure history - is savage, vile, and heartrending. I've read other works on the Holocaust, I've watched the documentaries and movies, I've been through the Holocaust Museum in DC, nothing affected me like this book did. It is not a book I will remember; it is a book that will haunt me.

Evil exists in this world, and it is good and right to fight it, tooth and claw. My deep gratitude for Sarah Helm's work here. If it was difficult to read I can only imagine how difficult it was to research and write. We owe her, no, strike that, we owe the tens of thousands of women who were enslaved and tortured and murdered there not to forget.

...so read it. As difficult as it will be to read. Because you will not forget.

 

The Trial of Jesus from a Lawyer’s Standpoint by Walter M. Chandler

 I would liken this book in my mind to mold. It grew on me slowly as I read it. And I had to read it slowly. This particular edition has print that is not tiny, it is infinitesemal. It was more than just a pain, it was a serious handicap to reading the book. But I plowed ahead and I'm heartily glad I did. Divided loosely into two main sections or volumes, one discusses the Jewish examinations of Christ and the other the Roman.

Chandler as an author is not necessarily fantastic, but he quite clearly knows his stuff, both historically and legally. He does not compare the trials of Christ to trials in our own day for such would be pointless. He painstakingly and damningly compares them at all points with the Jewish and Roman law of Christ's own day. He does not work on theory or probability but strictly on law. The book is true to its title. Though narrow in that sense, it is a highly valuable thought exercise overall. It's the kind of book you can lean on. It is patently reliable in its knowledge, logic, and argument. I had heard all of my life that Jesus' trials were illegal; after finishing this work I am utterly convinced of it. 

 

The Incomparable Christ: The Person and Work of Jesus Christ by J. Oswald Sanders

 This is my second Sanders work, and this one excels his more widely known and praised work on spiritual leadership. As a pastor, it is apparent to me this work was the result of a series of messages Sanders preached about Christ. It makes the book no less impressive for all that. He walks us through aspects of Christ's character, strengths, and attributes before finishing with an examination of the seven sayings on the cross. Each chapter is short, and would serve marvelously well as the foundation of a lesson or series of lessons. Along the way Sanders gives us not just pithy comments, which he does in spades, but downright enlightening ones.

I really, really liked it, and on the basis of this book will move Sanders up in my estimation and willingness to read him. 

 

Cobalt Red: How The Blood Of The Congo Powers Our Lives by Siddharth Kara

 Kara's work, while not flawless, is nonetheless searing. Recent. Painstakingly sourced, at risk to his own life and limb. Damning. A century and a half ago, it was Belgium raping the Congo; now it is the Chinese - and, by extension, their American customers. I've read King Leopold's Ghost; this is like the mad sequel made 150 years later. Truly, the Apostle Paul was right when he said, "The love of money is the root of all evil."

The task Kara set for himself was simple: to match the pledges made by tech companies in relation to the cobalt in their supply chain with the situation on the ground. The kindest word Kara uses in the whole book is "fiction." Which is precisely what they are. Focusing essentially on (badly named) artisinal miners, he shows how men/women/children labor in life-threatening conditions for practically no pay, and are exploited at every possible turn. Children under the age of ten digging in tunnels 18 inches high, left to rot by the dozens when the tunnels collapse. Teenage girls sexually abused, lives wasted away before their 18th birthday. Soldiers shooting children for the high crime of wanting to find another buyer for their precious sack of heterogonite. Politicians looting their homeland of tens of millions of dollars. Incalculable environmental damage. Organized crime. It goes on and on and on.

Kara's work is not flawless, as I said. He gets too emotional, though I can hardly blame him. He inserts himself into the reporting entirely too often, though even that helps us understand how he functions and how he came by his information. What he does do is research the industry, the economy, and the technology. He rests his case on countless interviews with ordinary, everyday, impoverished Congolese. He is at his best when telling their tales. You catch yourself looking at your 21st century American life entirely differently.

This is a book that cries out for answers, for solutions, but the problems are so deep-seated and so complex I am rather at a loss. At the end, it seems so is Kara. This is not the tale of a past crime. I have read those by the score. It is the tale of a present, on-going crime, one facilitated by my desire for inexpensive electronics.

This is a sobering work, and one I hope is widely read. 

 

The Crisis by Winston Churchill

 It is not often that you read a book thirty-five years after the first time you read it, and find it to be just as achingly beautiful as the first time. But today I have. It has been my custom to read to my children all their lives. Today, I read the last chapter of this book to my now adult daughter. What a book to end on.

I do not know why America history has forgotten this Winston Churchill. I find his writing illuminating, compelling, haunting even. It is historical fiction of the greatest variety, showing us both great character studies and perfectly drawn portraits of the age and place in which they live. No book has shown me the South better than this one.

I read almost zero fiction anymore. But walking through this book with my daughter over the last year or more was like walking with a dear friend, one I hadn't seen in decades. If you like historical fiction, I cannot possibly recommend Mr. Churchill highly enough. He will make you see. And think. And feel. He will stay with you. And when you meet him again, you will be glad.

 

Biblical Youth Work by Jim Krohn

 Every once in a while, in a great while, you walk away from a book with the realization you have just read the classic work in the field. I had that feeling after I had, at long last, put this book down. I say at long last because I read it slowly, out loud, paragraph by paragraph, with our church's youth pastor. I suppose it took us a year and a half, give or take. Along the way we discussed almost every paragraph. I was looking for something that would help him grow; what I found was a masterclass in youth pastoring.

Krohn's work is dated, in the sense that the illustrations and some of the applications are old, but the content is spot on. He is fierce, unapologetic, detailed, compassionate, thorough, wide-ranging, committedly conservative, and above all, scriptural. His many years as a youth pastor leaven the work, but they do not provide its foundation; that is biblical. Unafraid to tackle any aspect of the ministry, the value you will find here is enormous. Every independent Baptist youth worker in the world should read it. Slowly. Taking notes. And then immediately plan when he is going to read it again. 

 

The Baptist Distinctives and Why They Matter by Paul Frederick

 Paul Frederick, you have created here exactly what I wanted - a short, well-written, doctrinally accurate, easy to understand explanation of the Baptist distinctives. My compliments. I expect I will purchase/pass out many over the years. It will be a perfect accompaniment to our membership class.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Almost A Miracle: The American Victory In The War Of Independence by John Ferling

 This is the best one volume work I've ever read on the American Revolution. It is broad without being fuzzy, and detailed without getting bogged down. It shows us the politics, geopolitics, economics, technology, morale, strategy, tactics, and differing cultures that came to bear on the outcome. It shows us army life, paints a magnificent yet balanced portrait of George Washington, and doesn't even shrink from addressing slavery. While it justifiably focuses early on New England, it pays great attention to the war in the American South. And it does all of that without being overly repetitive. In fact, it isn't boring even in spots. Above all, it refuses to accede to the modern trend of revisionism. It is just history, pure and simple, albeit very well designed and effected in its execution as a book.

If you are interested at all in American history, you owe it to yourself to read it at some point. It will clarify the Revolution for you. 

 

The Strand Study Bible by Brad Strand

Having been a Bible-reading Christian for decades, I have found myself in recent years finding new ways to read the old Book. One manner I have hit upon is to read study Bibles. I do this during my personal devotion time. There are two things I always read out loud - the King James Bible and poetry. So I read the Bible portion out loud and the notes silently. 

This year I took down from my shelf the largest study Bible I own, the Strand. I never had the privilege of meeting him, though we have numerous connections. But I do feel as if I know him pretty well at this point after reading more than two thousand pages of his Bible notes. And, for the most part, I like the guy. Further, I respect him. Indeed, respect is the best word I can think of to describe this study Bible. Strand clearly loved the Lord, studied and knew the Bible, and produced a life's work that is deeply edifying.

In giving this a five star rating, it is not that I do not have disagreements with Strand in places in his notes. I did, and some of those were rather serious disagreements. He repeatedly corrects the King James translators, for one, and embraces numerology, for another. It should also be said that I found the notes lacking in places. For example, he often seemed to throw in a random sermon outline from a particular passage. Such did little to carry the over-arching narrative arc of Scripture.

By the same token, I want to make plain I found some great strengths here as well. Strand excels at connecting Scripture with Scripture. He puts the words of the each member of the Trinity in a different color, which adds to readability and understanding. He neatly summarizes core Biblical doctrines and points of emphasis. He does an excellent job showing us where one writer quotes another from the Word of God. And he does an outstanding job tracing Bible prophecies throughout the entire volume. So well done was the latter, this book is practically an eschatology course all on its own.

I do not recommend it without reservation for the weaknesses I found cited above. But I do absolutely recommend it. No matter how long you have walked with the Lord and lived in the Book you will find some things here you have never heard before. And you will profit from it.